The 6 Pillars of a Winning Personals Ad
If you put up a personals ad, and you are not getting any positive results, you are losing sight or have lost sight of the overall principle behind personal ads.
What is this principle? What is the great mystery here? What is the overriding force that separates our winning personal ads from losing ads? It really all boils down to the fact that personal ads put you on sale.
I’m not talking about selling yourself into slavery, or anything drastic like that. Instead, I’m talking about selling yourself because when you put out an ad, you are telling the reader that you are more attractive, more desirable and more worthy of their attention compared to the ads that they’ve seen before you, and the ads they’re likely to see after you. You have to make that case. That is an unstated case.
This is the principle that drives personal ads, and unfortunately, a lot of people are so blind to this reality that they produce personal ads that do not make the sale. They don’t make the case because they feel that they’re not selling themselves. In fact, they are offended by the notion of them having to sell themselves.
It’s easy to see why people think this way because people believe they have inherent value, that just by showing up, they get respect, by showing up, they get the admiration they deserve. That’s not how reality works. Respect is earned. Admiration is the prize that you’re awarded for every victory that you get.
In other words, you can’t expect people to treat you nice just because you showed up. It would be nice if that’s the case, and you are definitely entitled to a minimal level of practical respect. However, if you’re actually looking to be found attractive enough to be worth chasing, you have to roll up your sleeves. You have to put in the work. You have to do a little something extra.
Nm does this work? Make sure that your personal ad has the following 6 pillars. If these 6 elements are present, chances are, your personal ad is going to be a winner. There are no two ways about it. This advice I’m going to give you applies whether you’re trying to get a date through a personal ad, or you are posting an ad in a dating website. It works in those contexts as well, and also works for social media.